Do you have a problem?
Look at this simple self-test to find out!
Ask Yourself….If you are concerned about being abusive with your partner,
ask yourself these questions and consider them as
warning signs of a problem:
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Was there violence in your family?
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During conflict do you often threaten someone, break things, punch walls, slam doors, ignore her, or leave?
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Do you have mood swings, where one moment you feel loving and affectionate, and the next moment angry and threatening?
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Have you ever physically harmed your partner, or any past partners?
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Do you find it difficult to talk to your partner about your feelings, your hopes, and your fears?
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Do you tend to blame others for your behavior, especially your partner?
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Are you a very jealous person?
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Do you try to control how your partner thinks, dresses, who she sees, how she spends her time, how she spends her money?
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Do you try to discourage her from seeing her friends or family?
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Do you get angry or resentful when she is successful in a job or hobby?
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Do your conversations quickly escalate into threats of separation or divorce?
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Do you ever threaten to hurt her, yourself, or others, if she talks about leaving you?
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Do you do or say things that are designed to make her feel “crazy” or “stupid?”
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Do you blame alcohol, drugs, stress, or other life events for your behavior?
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Do you feel guilty after aggressive behavior and strive for your partner’s forgiveness?
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Do you think that you could never live without her, yet other times want her out?
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Do you use sex, money, or other favors as a way to “make up” after conflict?
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Have you ever said “don’t make me angry”?
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Is your partner afraid of you sometimes?
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